Wednesday, September 27, 2006

Friday, September 22, 2006

What the heck happened?

I could tell she was hurt...

She was telling me about this guy she had met who worked as a bouncer at a bar she frequented. They had been doing a lot of talking and flirting when she was there. He was her age and she found him quite attractive. Each week, if she stayed until closing, he would walk her to her vehicle.

Recently, the bar closed a little early since it was a quiet night and she said to him, "We're going up to the place around the corner, do you want to join us?" After several comments about having to go to work the next day, he finally said yes he would accompany her. She bought him a beer and he drank a couple of additional drinks. They talked, as much as they could in the loud place.
After a while, he said that he needed to go because he'd stayed much longer than he had planned. She also said she needed to leave, so he offered to drive her back to her vehicle. They chatted and flirted some more. She had gotten used to the fact that he was pretty reserved, shy even. Before she got out of his truck she said that she hoped he would tell her if her exuberance ever bothered him. He said, "I never said that did I?".

As she got out, she laughed and said, "You're cute".

She crossed the street to her vehicle as he rolled down his window and said, "Just cute??". In response, she said, "Well, let's just say 'I'd DO you'. (As I understand it, this was some inside joke between them). He said, "that's better" as she drove off. She then text messaged his cell phone with: "But you could give me some hint that you're actually interested". He immediately called her cell and said, "Yes".
"Yes, what?" she asked. "YES to what you just asked!"
As she drove home, they chatted on the phone. He started telling her that he was leary of relationships, having been betrayed by someone (they had talked some about his ex-wife before). She told him that she didn't want to MARRY him. He said sarcastically, "Well, thanks!" and she said, "Geez, what do you WANT from me?
He then said, "What do YOU want?"
She told him that above all, friendship was the most important thing... but friendship "with benefits" wasn't bad either... he laughed. She DID want him. As they finished the conversation, they had agreed to work on the friendship first.

The week following, they again went to the bar up the street after he got off from work. Things were pretty much as the week before. Still taking it slow.

But now she tells me that in the last couple of weeks he's changed. He still chats with her at work... but he's much more reserved. And to top it all off, he's told some of her friends that he "Just wants to be friends"... Wow, the kiss of death. She was crushed. Bad enough that he feels that way, but to announce it to her friends!? She asked me what she had done wrong...

Maybe you didn't DO anything wrong... maybe he really is affected by his past. Maybe he can't get past it. You're very different. He's quiet, reserved and you are... hmmm, energetic... and affectionate! He told you he's not very affectionate. "Yes, but I asked if it bothered him that I was and again he shot back, 'Now did I say that it bothered me?'"

I said to her, "okay, maybe he's just a shallow bastard."
No really! Let's just see what happens. Chill Out! It's not like you won't ever see him again. Hah, easier said than done!

Thursday, September 21, 2006


Sorry I haven't posted in a while. I've been busy, busy, busy!
But I'm feeling much better than that last post.
School (Massage Therapy) began on Sept. 6th. Three nights a week until the end of February, then Anatomy will be over and it will be 2 nights a week. I had my first test in Massage Theory class on Monday. I got a 96! Well, at first I got a 100... but when we went over it I found where the teacher had missed one incorrect answer. She thanked me for my honesty. Damnit! I wanted that 100! My first Anatomy test is next Wednesday..... eeeek!
I'm surprised at how much I actually remember from high school Health and Biology classes. But I have a feeling it's going to get more challenging!
All in all, I'm enjoying classes very much so far.

On top of 3 classes/week for Massage Therapy, I've been involved in RAD Classes on Tuesdays.
RAD stands for Rape, Aggression, Defense. If you've never heard of RAD, please check out their website.

From the website:

a comprehensive, women-only course that begins with awareness, prevention, risk reduction and risk avoidance, while progressing on to the basics of hands-on defense training. R.A.D. is not a Martial Arts program.

Why R.A.D.?

  • R.A.D. is the largest network of its kind with over 7000 Instructors receiving training in our systems to date. These Instructors teach at various colleges, universities, and municipal law enforcement agencies as well as various other community organizations internationally. R.A.D. has trained more than 300,000 women since the program began in 1989.
  • R.A.D. is the only existing program with a free lifetime return and practice policy, honored throughout both the US and Canada.
  • R.A.D. has developed specialized simulation techniques and equipment for use by certified R.A.D. instructors.
  • R.A.D. is the only self defense program ever endorsed by the International Association of Campus Law Enforcement Administrators (IACLEA).
  • Lawrence N. Nadeau, Director of Instructional Development and Founder.

Here is my rendition of our beloved instructor
Sgt. Yummy (a.k.a. "Hunk-o-Cop")