At school and growing up in general, I was always told (from my earliest memories) that I could do whatever I wanted if I worked hard at it. Why would you tell anyone anything different?
Case in point, my friend was told not to plan a career in a particular field as they were 'not particularly talented'...
um, What? REALLY?!?!?!?
This statement has followed this individual throughout their life and has nagged and eroded their self confidence the entire way.
I was so livid to learn this and totally flabbergasted. I just couldn't imagine being told such a thing at a young age, especially when it involved a beloved avocation.
Please, folks... be careful what you say to children.